We live in a society which understands it is acceptable to go no contact with a partner when the relationship breaks down. A society which understands that friendships can also fall apart and no contact is too an option; but we are yet to live in a society which understands that relationships with family … Continue reading 13 Phrases a person estranged from their father does NOT need to hear this coming father’s day …..
Do you know that feeling when you see something you weren't prepared to see? That feeling of surreal shock, quickly followed by self-judgement because why on earth had you not prepared yourself? You knew it was coming, it comes round every year. Why would this year be any different? It felt almost as if all … Continue reading Surviving A Fatherless Father’s Day ….
My great aunt sadly passed away just before Christmas 2017. She was 90 years of age and often said she wouldn't change a single part of her life! She was very special to me and I often spent afternoons with her drinking tea with evaporated milk, eating cake and far too many Werther's originals! She … Continue reading The effect estrangement has when a family member passes away.
Just as I feel like I have recovered from Christmas with the societal focus on family WHAM mother's day hits! Another challenge I have to face, another hurdle I need to cross another mountain to climb! You know what? I am exhausted it seems like a constant test, a constant fight, the longet game of … Continue reading Surviving a motherless mother’s day ….
Being estranged events such as my mothers birthday ALWAYS cause me anxiety on the build up and the day itself. I start to feel guilty weeks, and sometimes months in advance because I will not be seeing her. As empowered as I feel making my decision of estrangement and giving myself permission to remove people … Continue reading My Mum’s Birthday.
I remember the nerves walking through the airport. I was apprehensive about how my "reclaimed Christmas" was going to "play" out. I realise apprehension is completely understandable and if anything a natural response to an event such as this. I am different now. I am ME. You grow when you walk through all your dark … Continue reading My Reclaimed Christmas- New York 2017
Estrangement, such an intense and somewhat harsh label isn’t it? Who decided on that label? Who decided to identify themselves as estranged? Who even thought it was possible and acceptable to become estranged? These are just some of the many questions I asked myself in the very beginning. They did however get one thing right … Continue reading Estrangement- Finding Me